By: Marni Kinrys, The Ultimate Wing Girl
Tim Ferris really did a number on me, when he got me to believe that the “4 Hour Work Week” was really a 4-hour workweek. Easy life, free time, getting to choose my own hours. Turns out, not entirely true. After starting my biz, my social life was basically non-existent, my love life was suffering and the inner peace I once had, completely diminished. Damn you Ferris!!!!
It took me a few years of being an entrepreneur, to learn how to successfully balance a running biz and maintaining an awesome social life.
Here are a few little tips and tricks I use to make sure I didn’t forget about me:
Make entrepreneur friends. The first thing that got me out of my social funk was when I discovered that one of my online marketing group contacts (in my virtual/online group) actually lived steps away from me. He and I met, started hanging out and shortly after he was introducing me to other people who were just like me. Entrepreneurs! Prior to meeting him, all my friends worked 9-5 and didn’t get me. Suddenly I had new world of contacts, friends AND social activities to do with people just like me.
Plan Your Own Events. If I were the kind of person who depended on others to make shit happen, then I would not be where I am today So I take it upon myself to create my own events with friends. Maybe guys, will not understand this next statement, but ladies – you know how hard it is to get a group of women to commit to hanging out. It’s freakin tough. But I keep trying. I have tea parties; wine tasting nights, dinner club, potlucks, and organize group vacations. And I keep on people. There was one point where insecurity crept in and I asked my friends if they wanted me to keep doing this and one of them said “OMG Marni, if you didn’t make this happen we would never see each other. We love that you get us out of the house. Please keep doing this.”
Schedule Social Time. Now I’ll admit, I don’t stick to this one religiously, but I try my best to schedule my social time. Not with actual events, but with blocks of time labeled as social. Social can mean anything: Gym, yoga class, walk to get coffee, go for lunch, call a friend. It’s basically me time. This has really been helping to take care of the diminishing inner peace.
Say Yes To Almost Every Invite. At the end of the day, the last thing that any of us want to do is shower and put our party clothes on BUT it’s a must. Well, it’s a must at least once a week. It’s always a pain getting there but something great always comes out of it. Either a new friend or a new contact.
Trust me when I say, I get it. I know how hard it is to rustle up the energy to go out and be social when you run your own business. I would much rather sit at home, on the couch cuddled up to my entrepreneur husband and watch The Bachelor (don’t tell him that I told you he watches that show). But if I did that every night, I would suffer. My business would suffer and therefore my clients would suffer.
My final message to you, which is the same one that I give to each of my clients, is GET OFF YOUR BUTT and make life happen. You gotta be active in activating your social life!
Marni Kinrys, the ultimate Wing Girl is a woman who has worked with 100′s of thousands of men all over the world to help them understand women so they can attract, date, seduce and get any woman they want without being a jerk. Marni has been prominently featured in The Los Angeles Times, CNN, The Huffington Post, Fox News, The Chicago Tribune, Marie Claire, Elle, Glamour, Men’s Health, BlackBook, Penthouse, Asylum.com, MSN, AOL Personals, Askmen.com & more. For more dating, sex and attraction tips, follow Marni on Facebook and Twitter.